There is no difference between Damon and Stefan, Damon isn’t better than Stefan and Stefan isn’t better than Damon? BULLSHIT! These scenes alone prove which brother is less selfish with Elena. All Stefan wants to do is forget everything but he is the bad guy for it? When you have Damon who was told the exact same thing and instead of walking away, he kills her brother. That’s the difference between Stefan and Damon. Stefan actually cares about other people other than himself and when it comes to Elena, Stefan cares about her family and friends, you can’t say the same thing about Damon. So yes, it is very easy to say who is the better person out of both of them.